Egyptian Cleric Mahmoud Al-Masri Teaches Children It Is OK to Lie - to the Wife, to Jews in Times of War, and In Order to Reconcile between Two Muslims .
Mahmoud Al-Masri: ...the husband reaches the point where he gets tired of his wife, and can't stand her, and doesn't want to see her anymore. The same goes for the wife – she can't wait for the day that Allah will take him away from her. So what should we do in such a situation? In order to preserve the Muslim family, the Prophet Muhammad allowed the husband or wife to lie to one another – but only about matters of the heart, mind you. About what?
Children: Matters of the heart.
Mahmoud Al-Masri: Matters of the heart. If the wife asks her husband: "Do you love me, Abu Muhammad?" He should say: "Of course I love you, honey. How could anyone not love you?" He might not love her at all, but when he says: "I love you," she feels happy and stable, and feels that this is still her home, and that these are still her children and her husband. Right? But if he were to say to her: "The Prophet has forbidden lying, so I cannot tell a lie – I hate you, I want to kill you, and get rid of you..." Can they possibly continue to live together after this? No. That's why the Prophet Muhammad said: "You are allowed to lie to your wife, but only about matters of the heart." He is not allowed to lie to her about money, or about his comings and goings, and so on. No – only about matters of the heart."
Sharia Vs. Inalienable Rights Perspecitive:
One problem with this obviously, from a Christian perspective, is this teaching contradicts the teaching of Jesus to "remove the beam in your own eye, that you may clearly see the spec in your neighgor's eye". Personal repentence is not mentioned in this cleric's message.
Another teaching of Jesus that is missed by Mohammed and this cleric is the clear conclusion one has to draw when Jesus says, "love your enemy". That if it is possible to love one's enemy--for God does not give a command that can not be obeyed-- then a husband can certainly love his wife--"who is flesh of his flesh and bone of his bone".
Islam teaches it's ok to cover up your sins in lies, in "matters of the heart", instead of confessing them.
It seems that Mohammed did not address personal repentance in ones thought life towards a spouse, or turning one's thoughts away from hatred and evil, or loving your neighbor or your enemy as yourself. I think this could be a very good pamphlet, if a Christian wrote one to juxtaposition the Christian view of marriage against Mohammed's view.
Instead of addressing the "heart", Mohammed encourages to cover up the heart with lies. "Matters of the heart" is right; but he's got the wrong solution. It's so clear if you know the Scriptures.
Video Link http://www.memritv.org/clip/en/1519.htm